Friday, November 6, 2009
Brenda's Got a Baby
For the past month or so, I have been performing in a children's show down in Orlando as part of my acting internship. This week, a school of young mothers came to watch the show. After wards we had a talk back, were basically the actors come from backstage and answer questions. I left this talk back deeply disturbed.
It wasn't that the mothers were rude. All were very polite, their questions thought provoking and funny, and they seemed generally interested in what we had to say. What was disturbing was each and every one of them was either black or latino, or a combination of both. And none of them were over the age of 18, and a few not even over the age of 15.
My friends used to joke when I graduated out of high school. I had reached a important milestone, I graduate out of high school, wasn't in jail, and didn't have any baby mamas. What I am starting to find is that my situation is increasingly becoming a anomaly for my community.
What upset me the most was I couldn't for the life of me grasp where the fathers were. Here were these children, either pregnant or with children of their own, working their hardest to attempt to create some sort of life for themselves and their children, and half the reason that they are in the situation they are in is missing. Granted I didn't know every situation, but this is becoming more common place.
This is unacceptable in our culture. We live in a time were condoms are practically given away; women have every form of pill, shot, patch, or fucking diaphragm imaginable; women are now at their most sexually liberated stage since the Celtics stopped having orgies every Easter. So why is this trend with in the Black community not only continuing but thriving? Why has my educated ass stopped being the norm? Why do stand in front of a room of middle school mothers and see not a father in sight?
Black Men, I grow increasingly ashamed of you. Because though we might not have to deal with the consequences of our actions, our children and our sisters do. All we have in the end is a room full of children getting ready to have babies.